A workshop for parents
School Struggles:
What’s Going On & How to Help
Practical ways to help your child with separation, school resistance, after-school meltdowns and big feelings.
£17 · for 60+ minutes of practical help you can start using straight away.
A school day, some days
7:52Shoes still not on.
Every morning a battle to get out of the door.
8:45“Please don’t go!”
Tears and clinging at the classroom door.
3:15“Nobody played with me today.”
And your heart sinks.
3:40The wrong snack. Total meltdown.
Absolutely fine at school. Falls apart at home.
School can be hard for children.
Maybe your child cries at drop-off.
Maybe every morning is a battle to get dressed and out of the door.
Maybe they seem absolutely fine at school… and then come home and fall apart over the wrong snack.
Or perhaps you hear the words:
“Nobody played with me today.”
…and your heart sinks.
It can be really hard to know what to do.
- Reassure them?
- Talk to the teacher?
- Push them through it?
- Let them stay home?
- Try to cheer them up?
In this workshop, I’ll help you understand what might be going on underneath your child’s behaviour, and give you practical ways to help.
Inside the workshop
Here’s what I’ll show you
How to use play when school is feeling hard
Simple games you can use to help with separation, confidence, getting ready for school and some of the powerlessness children can feel when so much of their day is decided for them.
We’ll look at things like:
- Special time
- Rough and tumble
- Chasing games
- Hide and seek
- Playing schools
- The “Please Don’t Go!” game
- …and even an undies fight!
These aren’t complicated games you need to prepare. They’re simple ways of bringing laughter, connection and play into the moments that are getting really hard.
What to do when your child falls apart after school
If your child comes home moody, angry, rude, aggressive or completely overwhelmed by tiny things, I’ll explain why that can happen, and what you can do instead of immediately trying to stop the behaviour.
We’ll talk about letting those feelings come out, while still setting limits when behaviour isn’t okay.
What to do when they say, “I’m not going to school”
I’ll walk you through how I respond when a child is refusing to get dressed, saying they hate school or begging not to go.
You’ll learn how to combine empathy with a warm, confident limit, without getting pulled into endless persuading or arguing.
Why more talking isn’t always the answer
We’re so much better now at talking to children about emotions.
But when your child is really upset, asking lots of questions or trying to explain everything can sometimes make things harder.
I’ll show you what to do instead, and why simply staying close while your child cries or rages can be so powerful.
And we’ll talk about
YOU too
Because school struggles don’t just bring up feelings for our children. They bring up ours.
Perhaps you hated school.
Maybe you were left out.
Maybe you were terrified of teachers.
Maybe seeing your child struggle makes you want to jump in and fix everything, right now.
Understanding what belongs to your child, and what might be getting stirred up in you, can make a huge difference to how you’re able to help them.
Is this for you?
This workshop is for you if your child…
You don’t need to wait until things are really bad.
These ideas can also be used before starting school, after the holidays or any time your child seems to be struggling more than usual.
- struggles to separate from you
- says they don’t want to go to school
- gets anxious before school
- finds mornings really difficult
- comes home and has huge meltdowns
- picks fights with siblings after school
- seems completely different at home than at school
- is struggling with friendships
- says nobody played with them
- …or is simply finding school harder than you expected
What you’ll get
The full School Struggles workshop
Over an hour of practical teaching about what may be happening for your child, and what you can actually do to help.
- A better understanding of what’s underneath the behaviour
- Practical games you can start using straight away
- A much clearer idea of what to do with tears, tantrums and after-school meltdowns
- A simple approach for those horrible mornings when your child says, “I’m not going.”
And perhaps most importantly…
More confidence that your child struggling with school now does not mean they’re always going to struggle with school.
Recorded workshop
£17
Watch it straight away and come back to it whenever you need it.
Children can move through this. And there is a LOT you can do to help.
A little bit about me
Hi, I’m Helena
I’m a Parenting Coach with over 15 years’ experience of working with families, and a mum of two.
I help parents understand what’s going on underneath their children’s behaviour, and give them practical ways to help.
I’ve also had children who found separation and starting school really hard. So I know how emotional it can be when it’s your child standing at the school gate saying they don’t want you to leave.
I don’t want to give you another list of things you “should” be doing.
I want to help you understand your child, and give you things you can actually try.
Helena x
Ready for mornings that feel a little lighter?
Get the full School Struggles workshop for £17 and start using the games this week.